UNapologetically Angela



Stay hydrated. Seems like a piece of advice that’s easy to let go in one ear and out the other, like “drive safe” or “be good”, right? Because it’s something that you already know you should be doing. I mean, they say the average person should drink about 4 16oz bottles of water a day. Everyone I know, including myself, has thought or does think that such a quantity seems unreasonable and inconvenient and just… well, not ideal. I am in the former category, as someone who no longer believes that is true. I think you should drink more water. I suggested this a couple times in my last piece, somewhat in passing, simply because I want to emphasize its importance. A friend agreed with me and suggested that I go a little more in depth. I’m not an expert in life, but I do know not to forget or underestimate the power of water. It’s what makes this planet unique and what continues to give us life. It’s what covers the majority of the Earth’s surface. It’s what washes us clean and quenches our thirst.

I once read an excerpt by the esteemed writer, Vera Nazarian, that said,

The desert and the ocean are realms of desolation on the surface. The desert is a place of bones, where the innards are turned out, to desiccate into dust. The ocean is a place of skin, rich outer membranes hiding thick juicy insides, laden with the soup of being. Inside out and outside in. These are worlds of things that implode or explode, and the only catalyst that determines the direction of eco-movement is the balance of water. Both worlds are deceptive, dangerous. Both, seething with hidden life. The only veil that stands between perception of what is underneath the desolate surface is your courage. Dare to breach the surface.

I know that is a little bit deep for an article about drinking more water, but I think it applies to multiple levels of self care and understanding.


img_2388I currently live in Las Vegas, Nevada. Basically, the middle of the desert. It’s usually pretty hot here, which I’m sure you’ve heard. It rarely gets very humid, either, so it’s a dry heat. Sometimes it can feel like someone has a massive hair blow dryer pointed at the city. I hadn’t really spent an extended amount of time in an environment like this before I moved here and I pretty much lived off of coffee and apple juice. I thought that was okay. Then, after a while being in Vegas, I noticed that I just didn’t feel very well. I wasn’t sick, necessarily, but I still didn’t feel good, either. I was tired and lethargic, which just made me feel unmotivated. My skin started to become more dry and less clear. I had forgotten to consider the fact that I lived in the middle of the damn desert. I was dehydrated. Duh, Angela. It’s important to recognize your environment and your lifestyle and adapt according to what your body needs. Trust me.


Some people may be thinking, “I don’t live in the desert. Why does this apply to me in such a serious manner?”, or “Why should I bother?”, or even “I don’t drink water. I like soda. Mind your own business.”  


Well, up to 60% of the human body is made up of water. Weird to think about. Still true, nevertheless. Whether you are in a hot climate or not, your body can still find lots of ways to lose hydration.  Sex. Sunshine. Alcohol. Drugs. Exercise. Sugar. Caffeine. Saunas. We may all have different habits and lifestyles, but not even a plant can survive without water. Don’t fool yourself.



If you do not replenish your body’s hydration levels on a frequent basis, the likelihood of harboring excess toxins goes up. I don’t know exact statistics or percentages of the increase, as I am not a doctor, but I know it’s around the amount of a shit-load. I have a friend who battled and overcame brain cancer and during his recovery, all the way up to present day, he has maintained the habit of constantly drinking water. He said it’s the best piece of advice he could give someone. Just flush your system out. He carries a personalized to-go cup with him everywhere he goes to make it easier. It has a straw for easy access, because I don’t know about you guys, but I don’t want to drink out of a camping water bottle when I’m on the go. I’ll accidentally spill it all over my face every time.

Reusable straw, please!

You don’t have to go the full mile and buy yourself a personalized cup like he did, though. I’ve seen similar ones at the dollar store. They do the job just fine. You have no excuses.

Also, keep in mind (especially if you’re trying to manage your weight) that most of the time, when you think you’re hungry yet AGAIN, it’s probably just because your body is trying to tell you that it’s thirsty. It’s a false hunger. Try filling up with water, not more pizza.

You get only one body in life. Respect yourself. Don’t take your health or your abilities for granted. Utilize the capabilities of your youth while you can. Build good habits NOW. If you wait, it’ll be just that much harder later on in life. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but why would you want to delay the implementation of good habits anyways?


This is your life. Ultimately, you are in charge. Face it. You need to think about yourself. Do not worry about what other people do. That is their life. You are not their keeper. Do not expect others to always adopt your mentality, or change for you, or even take care of you. That is all on you.


I am not saying you should try to be perfect. That’s not a real thing. I’m not saying you should become a health nut, either. I’m not even saying you should be someone who follows the rules all the time. I sure as hell don’t. I don’t eat vegetables everyday and I don’t always exercise and sometimes I do forget to floss. I like to drink alcohol. I can’t live without coffee. Sometimes I pull the occasional all nighter. Sometimes I fall asleep before I remember to take my makeup off after a long night. We don’t have to suddenly give up every vice. I’m just saying that self care is paramount. Indulge, but not too much. Food, relationships, sleep, work, shopping, etc… We can admit that we all fall to the temptation of a binge every once in a while, but as one of my influencers, Christopher Poindexter, once wrote, “You can’t have too much of anything or you will ruin it. If you want to keep things beautiful and poignant, you must find the time to miss them.


PS: If you are forgetful or if building this healthy hydration habit is not yet easy for you, start with a schedule that’s easy to remember and maintain. For example:

  • Glass of water with breakfast, after coffee.img_2333
  • Bring a to-go cup or water bottle to keep in the car.
  • Choose a glass of water over soda with your lunch.
  • Finish your to-go cup as you’re, well… on the go.
  • After dinner, have a glass. It helps with digestion, too.
  • Before bed, have a glass. Especially if you’ve been drinking alcohol. You’ll thank yourself later.

Now you’ve met your body’s average daily quota. Easy!


Once you start drinking more water, it will become second nature. It’s refreshing and it will make you feel great, I promise. You’ll learn to love it. Learn to love yourself.


Remember – Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend,


UNapologetically Angela

Let’s Begin, Shall We?


There are so many goals I’ve put on the back burner. Learning to play the drums. Relearning to play the piano. Improving my rapping skills and turning my poetry into music. Boob job. (Yeah, don’t judge me.)  Actually going to the gym and getting in shape. Becoming a morning person for the first time in my life. Make more art. Sell my art. Get the hell out of this country for a while. This nonsense is a joke that’s not funny anymore. My main hindrance over the years has been money, but laziness definitely plays a role in the lack of follow through. I don’t wanna wait anymore. I have a lot of potential and although my free time is limited, there’s always a way to find time. Reprioritize. It’s time to make shit happen.

Inspiration doesn’t often come from something tangible. It begins with an idea sparked by a vision. It is unpredictable and often doesn’t make sense, but most beautiful things rarely do. We each see the same world through different eyes.

I must remind myself – constantly improve. Keep on moving. Implement better habits. Expel unwanted nonsense. Go to the gym. Limit your intake of carbs. Bread is bad and it’s not okay to eat pizza everyday, even though it may feel wonderful in the moment.


Tell disrespectful people to mind their own business or go away.

Make time for yourself.

Make time for fun.

Try to keep an open mind.

Read books.

Travel, because it’s important. You are not meant to be stagnant.

Don’t stress over boys who don’t care. Don’t stress over boys at all. Drink water. Seriously, drink more water. You live in the middle of the desert, for goodness sake. Treat yourself. But still, in the words of MGMT – “control yourself, take only what you need from it.” Disregard negativity. Hustle hard. Shake your ass in public. Dance nude in your living room. Keep your goals in mind. Be thankful for what you have. Accept what you can’t change. But most of all, be yourself.

Life works in mysterious ways, so don’t let your spirit be staggered by what losses the future may hold, just manifest gains in the present and the future will unfold as it should. Just manifest it.

I’ve had flings with several men over the course of the last few years, but I’ve intentionally avoided the title of “girlfriend” for about 3 of those years now. People come and go, and that’s okay. It’s not frequent that I come across real connection with people. I don’t like to waste my time on things that don’t enrich my life. I don’t understand serial daters, because I think it’s healthy to be alone until you find someone who’s truly worth keeping. I mean, honestly, how can every man be your “soulmate”? Check yourself, ladies. I don’t really get jealous of other girls anymore either. The more the merrier, right? Ha, just kidding. ….Kind of.


I read something once that said, “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.” I think that is beautiful and something that everyone should take to heart. The point is, I chase goals, not people. I judge character, not age or status. I seek the odd, not the mundane. I admire the adventurous, not the comfortable. And as I say so often, I catch flights, not feelings.

Don’t bother worrying about what others do. Create your own happiness, because that sort of thing doesn’t come from anywhere except within. Ignore the bullshit. Respect the hustle. Fuck bitches, get money. It’s all part of the universal pursuit of happiness, but remember – happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t get them confused.

There is no cure for nostalgia. There’s no shame in being strange. There is no success story that didn’t start with failure. There is no growth with lack of ambition. There is no benefit to worrying. There is no need for jealousy. There is nothing in this life that lasts forever. There is definitely nothing that should stop you from being the best version of yourself that you can be.

Developing good habits starts with baby steps. Improve little by little each day and in due time you will see drastic progress.

Set goals and plans.

Write them down and consider ways to make them possible.


Expand skills in both professional and personal aspects of life. You’ll get bored if you don’t challenge yourself. Step outside of comfort zones often. Read books. Smile at strangers, but not necessarily the creepy ones. Still trust your instincts. People in today’s society have lost most of their animalistic tendencies, which is partly a good thing, because we aren’t barbarians. Yet, isolation due to technology and a constant social media presence has made us oblivious and unable to react organically or instinctively in the real world. I know anxieties can be high, but try to be present. Be soulful. Be kind. Make an effort to lead a life to be proud of. Otherwise, what’s the point?

The purpose of this site is to help you accomplish your goals, reach your full potential, love yourself, and love others. You can expect to hear from me twice a week, sharing my experiences and advice on a variety of topics that affect each and every one of us. Over the course of the next few months, I will go over the importance of Hydration and Self-Care, Setting Goals and Personal Accountability, Growth and The Acceptance of Change, Mental Illness and Anxiety, Learning to Be Okay With Being Alone, Women’s Struggles in a Society of Men, Nostalgia, The Law of Attraction, and more… Stay tuned and stay positive! This is going to be a beautiful adventure.

Remember – Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend,


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