UNapologetically Angela

BLESSINGS & GRATITUDE

We all have a tendency to get swept up in frustration when things go wrong. And when this happens, we are inclined to focus on that negativity. To dwell in it. To allow it to ruin our day, or our week, or our relationships.

We can’t always help it. We are entitled to have emotions and to feel things deeply. We are human and with that, we are not always happy. We are not always proud. We are not always thankful for the life we have been given.

This is a shame, regardless of its inevitability.

When things go wrong, we are quick to complain and to place blame. But when things go right, do you voice your gratitude? Do you allow yourself to be swept up by that thankfulness? Do you choose to focus on your blessings, rather than your bad luck?

I believe it is so important to audibly recognize the good in your life, every single day. Just like with the Law of Attraction, the energy to put out into the world comes back to you, like a boomerang. If the sun is shining and the breeze is warm – thank your God, or the universe, or Mother Nature, or your birthday candles for the comfort and the Vitamin D.

If you accidentally bump your freshly poured cup of coffee and manage to save it before it spills everywhere – acknowledge that win! Embrace every victory.

If you are given a promotion or a grand opportunity, share with those who helped you get there how much esteem you hold for them. Give respect to those who have given you knowledge and patience and a fighting chance.

If you meet someone who changes your life for the better, make sure that they know how valued they are. Make sure you tell them how thankful you are that they came to you.

If you are at the bakery and you arrive just in time to get the very last chocolate chip cookie that you’ve been thinking about all day – shout “THANK YOU!” to the world. To anyone. Just make certain that it is said.

Express recognition. Establish honor.

Do not take these things for granted.

When you focus your attention on your blessings instead of fixating on the imperfections of this world, life begins to feel like a gift. A gift that keeps on giving. And to think – if we never faced loss, or if we never witnessed destruction, or if we never had to deal with things not going our way… would we even be capable of appreciating the good? Would we even realize how good we actually have it? Would we even care?

I read something once, by an unknown author, that said:

You have $86400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you. Would you be upset and throw all of the $86390 away in hopes of getting back at the person that took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, move on and live. See, we have 86400 seconds in every day, so do not let someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the rest of the 86390. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is bigger than that.

Open your eyes to the many blessings of everyday life. Open your ears to the music in the wind and among the trees. Open your heart to the love that fills the spaces in between. Open your mind to new ways of thinking.

Find your balance. Find your peace. Find yourself.

Remember to say thank you, always.

What goes around comes around.

We’re all just spinning, spinning, spinning.

Remember –Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend

Angela

UNapologetically Angela

REJECTION/ SELF DOUBT

From all the times we’ve ever been told “no”.

From all the times someone said that we weren’t good enough.

From all the times we came in second place… or third, or fourth, or fifth.

From the times he stared at her in a way that was supposed to be for only you.

From the times you didn’t get invited to that party.

From the first time you started to question your potential.

From any time you’ve ever doubted your power.

Our skins harden over time after often being susceptible to harsh words, judgement, and rejection. We live in a beautiful, yet cruel world. We dwell among monsters. Sometimes, we are the monsters.

I’m a strange kind of monster, personally.

I don’t get attached to people easily. I fly solo and that’s the way I like it. I don’t have high expectations. I rarely have any expectations at all. Expectation is the root of all heartache.

I may still have the occasional fling from time to time. A girl has to have a little fun, right? Nevertheless, I like to keep it in, what you could call (for lack of a better term), the “cool” zone.

Nothing too serious. No heavy expectations. No pressure.

And yet –

Nothing too casual. Not just a random person off the street. Not exactly a one night stand.

Friends.

Just two people on the same light-hearted, easy-going, non-committal page.

With benefits.

These situations usually work out quite well for me when I meet people who understand my boundaries and my expectations (or lack thereof). It’s usually quite simple when you remove the elements of assumption or promise and just ride it like a wave. The problem is, often times, someone unintentionally gets carried away. This particular time, unfortunately, it was me.

Before this instance, about a year and a half ago, I’d never encountered the kind of rejection that happens when someone who you thought cared about you decides to inexplicably disappear from your life and replace you in a blink of an eye.

Even in my non-committal relationships, a foundation of friendship still existed. I never thought I’d simply be ghosted. This time, I was wrong.

Despite the lack of any foreseeable future between us, I was undoubtedly hurt. For a number of reasons, actually. His ambiguous departure left me with a lot of unanswered questions.

I thought we were having a good time?

Was it something I did?

Did he meet someone else?

Did I misinterpret what was happening here?

Why do I even care?

I hated hearing these thoughts pass through my head. It has always bothered me when girls over stress about what a guy thinks of them, or why they aren’t texting back, or what other girls they’re hanging out with, or where their future is headed (when it’s likely their journey together just barely began in the first place), rather than just living in the moment and accepting life as it happens. I do not want to be one of those girls. I am not one of them. I know my worth.

But I was confused, to say the least. If you treat someone like they are important to you when they actually aren’t, that’ll fuck up anyone’s head.

If you don’t care, that’s cool. Just don’t fake it.

If you want to be selfish, that’s cool. Just don’t hurt others in the process.

Everything is a learning experience though, right? I quickly let go of those who pretend to be  something they’re not. He disappeared from my life as quickly as he entered it and it was as if our summer together never even happened. Gone without a trace. I’ve been reminiscing quite a lot recently and in retrospect, I have no ill will for those who decided to leave my life, abruptly or not. The rejection, especially that one in particular, was necessary in order to drive momentum in a different direction.

I remind myself that when I fly solo, I fly so high. I am confident, but I do not beg for attention or compete for love. I do not expect much from people, except honesty. I appreciate good souls, good company, and good sex, even if they may be rare occurrences in this life. I will create my own utopia in this chaotic world and I will not be phased by the antagonists of my story. I encourage you to try to adopt a similar mentality.

Don’t worry. That guy you were dating won’t even compare to the promising men of your future. That crappy job you had will be nothing but a blip on your radar down the road. The people who you rendered useless to the pursuit of your success will be at a standstill, while you’re off building your empire, better without them. You must realize your worth and your potential, even if they don’t. Especially then.

It used to be difficult to listen to certain songs that reminded me of a lust I once had, but today I listen to them with a content mood and a fondness for the memories they bring back.  Although things don’t always turn out like you expected, life usually brings you what you need in that moment. Then, sometimes, the moment passes… and so do the people in it.

I’m busy doing me and I have no intention of stopping. I have a lot to accomplish. If love should find me eventually, so be it. In the meantime, I will lay in the sunshine and remind myself that being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. Rejection does not carry weight over me. Loss creates room for opportunity. I have people scattered across the planet who each make up a part of my heart. But they do not own it. It beats strongly on its own.

DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELF.

Do not fear judgement. Only the small and shallow minded feel the need to judge the way others choose to live. Embrace the weird and the wild and do not become broken by others’ opinions. Laugh at the notion that they think they even know you at all.

You are capable.

You are loveable.

You are beautiful.

F**k the haters. You’ve got this.

“Because she competes with no one, no one can compete with her.” – Lao Tzu


Remember -Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend

Angela

UNapologetically Angela

INSTINCTS AND INTUITION

Where is your sense of trust derived from? Do you trust yourself?

When life brings you to a fork in the road, how do you decide which way to go?

I trust my intuition more than any spoken word I’ve ever heard. We are ultimately just animals who’ve lost sight of our original animalistic disposition, our minds now clouded by modern mumbojumbo. Not nearly as fresh as the lion, for example, the king of the jungle, with senses so heightened, so aware. He always knows what he needs to do to survive and conquer.

We often ignore our instincts, whatever the reasoning may be, but you cannot take stake in words or appearances alone. You cannot always trust the influence of others. You cannot always expect them to understand your goals, your path, your past, your soul. Things are not always as they seem and predators are always lurking. Trust the vibes you feel. Even if they don’t necessarily make sense, if your gut is telling you something, it is probably something significant. You would be wise to listen.

Or at least proceed with caution. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take risks or do things that scare you. You should. You absolutely should. You can’t live life constantly looking over your shoulder or letting fear make your decisions for you. Nevertheless, it is so important to be in tune with yourself, while still preserving a sense of balance with the world. By not becoming oblivious to it. Become captivated instead. Utilize that awareness and trust your instincts.

Form an allegiance with your intuition.

The varying spectrums of crazy that all humans inevitably encounter are amusing, even if occasionally disturbing. But it’s real and it’s raw. You can feel it in your bones. The words they say don’t matter. The eyes say it all. And the rest? That sound you hear is your inner voice trying to say something to you, if only you would listen.

Stop doubting yourself. LISTEN. Nobody knows you better than you.

If you feel like someone may be deceitful, don’t tell them your secrets and don’t follow them down dark alleys – literally and metaphorically.

If you feel like something may be unsafe, gage the risk and act rationally.

If you think someone is hurting and hiding it, reach out to them.

If you think someone is not right for you, don’t ignore that. Don’t just stay anyways.

If you have dreams that others do not understand or accept, do not let that hinder your spirit or your hunger for success. Follow those dreams.

If you tap into your potential and believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything.

If you trust your intuition, you may better understand the ways of the world.

If you place confidence in your instincts, you may better understand yourself.

If you feel powerful, even if only for a moment, follow that fearlessness.

Your thoughts matter. Even if only to you, for now.

Your fears are real and relevant to the darkness in your life and thus, justifiable.

You’re still an animal. Don’t disregard that fact.

You possess something inside you that understands this world better than your conscious mind can comprehend. Almost supernatural. Mystical. A clear and uncluttered clairvoyance.

And yet, a forgotten art.

We must remember it.

I read a quote once, written by an unknown author, that said:

Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams, or wake up and CHASE THEM.

Let your inner voice lead you.

If you’re unsatisfied, do something about it. Dissatisfaction is a parasite. It will eat away at you, gnawing at every aspect of your life until you quench your thirst for whatever it is that’s missing. It will grow and get stronger with each mundane day you let pass you by. It’s a big world out there and any of it can belong to us. We only  have one life to live, so why not make it an adventure?

Stop complaining. Stop doubting yourself.

Look fear in its eyes and don’t blink. Trust yourself. Get up. Make your life something to be proud of. Nobody else is going to do it for you.

If you can accept the impulses of life and roll with the punches… let me tell ya, you’ll be a lot less worried about tomorrow, a lot more involved in today, and a lot more proud of yesterday. Plus, it’s just fucking fun to flow with the rise and fall of the tides of life. Don’t fight it and you’ll stay afloat. Remember the memories that define you. Access the passion inside you. Don’t tune out the whispers that come from your heart or your head. Don’t underestimate your potential. Inspire confidence. Trust yourself. Trust your instincts and your intuition.

You may be astonished at the magical places it may bring you.

You may be rescued and protected by your own internal angel.

You may be navigated by fate.

Innate knowledge exists in all of us and your personal discernment is relevant to you.

React justly and have faith in your aptitude.

Credence in oneself is won by overcoming the obstacles – despite dogma or distractions or detours or danger. The battle of trust and power begins inside of you. Conquer this mortal world.

Be the lion.

Remember –Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend

Angela

UNapologetically Angela

Taking Risks

It is said that without risk, there is no reward.

You cannot move forward by standing still. You cannot create change without causing a disturbance to current comfort zones. You cannot build better prospects unless you embrace the uncertainty that comes with blooming potential.

Most of my major life decisions have been impulsive ones. The risks do not usually scare me. And even when they do, the way I see it, that fear should be used as fuel. Fuel to find the future that you crave. We must get there, regardless of the fear. We are afraid of the unknown. We are afraid of failure. We are afraid of leaving behind that which we have become so accustomed to. But, consider the alternative. What if everyday of your life happened exactly as you expected it to? What if you never experienced hardship, thus never understood the value of hard work? What if you were so afraid to let go that you never learned to grow? Endless possibilities lay dormant and it is up to us to awaken them, to experiment with them, to embrace them.

But first, in order to determine what risks are worth taking, you must establish goals. What is your “end-game”? What are you willing to do to get there?

As for me?

Well, one year ago, I was in a rut.

I was living in Washington state, a place that I never truly felt I fit in. I was a city girl stuck in small town life. I was a beach girl stuck in an endless grey winter. I was a free spirit surrounded by anchors that kept trying to bring me down. Conventional life never suited me and closed minded people loved to judge me. I needed to escape, but my world seemed to be flooding with chaos and crises and I had no idea how to stay afloat.

My mom had been battling cancer all that year.

The number of friends I could count on were dwindling.

Money wasn’t coming in as quickly as I’d hoped it would.

The lack of sunshine was making me depressed. It made everyone depressed.

Then came the cherry on top…

One night, I fell asleep at the wheel of my Mini Cooper while going around a curvy mountain road. Within a millisecond, I crashed into the protective barrier, ricochet and spun, then crashed into the mountain. Totaled the car. I could have died. Probably should have. But that wasn’t my fate.

I made it out alive and unharmed, except for a slight concussion and some minor back/neck pain.

The next day, I got a phone call from an old acquaintance I hadn’t seen in nearly a decade. She hadn’t heard about the crash, but had something else on her mind. She told me she needed a roommate and that I should move to Las Vegas. At first, I thought she was joking. “There’s no way in hell that’s possible right now”, I told her and laughed. It seemed crazy. My life was messy. My funds were low. My mom had gotten news that her cancer went into remission, but I still didn’t feel comfortable leaving her. I had no family and almost no friends in Vegas. I had no job leads. No apartment. No clue what the hell I would do if I did decide to go.

Yet, within 24 hours, I called her back and told her that in a few months, I would see her there. I was doing it. I was moving to Las Vegas. I hadn’t even fully formed a plan yet, but I knew that this was an opportunity I shouldn’t pass up. It was a risk that would be worth taking.

Why?

I had been craving something more for far too long. I was sick of feeling imprisoned by life. I was tired of being in a place where I was so misunderstood. I was tired of snow and rain and dreary skies. I have an ambitious spirit with bold dreams and I didn’t want to put them on hold any longer.

After weighing the pro’s and con’s of the move, my impulsive decision was cemented. Despite the risk, despite the obstacles, despite the inevitable nostalgia that comes from the ending of any era… I decided to take a leap of faith, pack my bags, and book a one way flight.

With careful planning and great organization, I secured a job remotely, along with a few backup interviews for good measure. With the help of my soon-to-be roommate, we found an apartment and signed a lease, without me even having to be in the state yet. Thank you, modern technology. I submitted a claim on my crashed car, saved the little money that I had, and mentally prepared for the massive changes that were coming.

I had faith that the risks from uprooting my entire life and starting again from scratch would be worth the reward. A world at my fingertips. A city of new faces. A version of me that hadn’t even come into existence yet. It was thrilling, despite the uncertainty and potential dangers, and in spite of all the people who ever doubted me.

And you know what?

I’ve been living happily and successfully in Las Vegas for over a year now. No, it didn’t turn out as I had planned. Things rarely ever do. Instead, it turned out better. It turned out to be absolutely one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself.

In this city, even just daily life has its risks. This is not a normal place. This is not your average city. Not everyone is cut out to live here. If you’re addicted to gambling, I don’t suggest residing here.

But, in a sense, gambling can occur in all walks of life anyways, not just in the usual definition you’re thinking of, like slots and poker and making bets on sports.

We gamble everyday.

We must bet on ourselves.

We must take risks.

Timing is everything and you don’t always get a second chance. If you are dealt a generous hand in life – if you are given an opportunity to rise – don’t toss it aside.

This is a dangerous world. Dog eat dog, or so they say. Competitors. Predators. Obstacles. Also, adventures. Aspirations. Honor. They all go hand in hand.

What is my point?

If you are unsatisfied with your current situation, but you aren’t making any positive progress, perhaps it’s time to roll the dice. Take a chance. Make a change. Do the thing that scares you if it will lead you towards your ultimate desired destination. Utilize your adrenaline to defeat your fear. Trust in fate. It will always bring you to where you’re meant to be. Have confidence in yourself. It will get you what you want. And if it doesn’t? Persistence and passion will. Oh, and don’t forget to allow yourself to be spontaneous from time to time. Risky business can be fun.

Luck of the draw.

Flip of the coin.

Turn of the wheel.

Fall of the cards.

Leap in the dark.

Toss of the dice.

Allow yourself to be captivated by unpredictability. It is a beautiful thing, both as a disaster and a triumph. Take heed from the lessons learned from either outcome.

In the words of Hellen Keller, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.

Indeed.

Remember – Today is beautiful and tomorrow can be better.

-Your Friend

Angela


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